So, I ran across a NC public school ranking article and saw that Warren County Schools was ranked 100. Although I felt some type of way, I admit and accept the challenges faced by rural, economically disadvantaged school systems. However, the condition and resources of your school cannot negate or keep one from their positive and productive destiny, unless one lets it.
I am a proud product of South Warren Elementary, Warren County Middle School, and Warren County High School! In fact, these schools and teachers built me up when I was torn down as a young black male youth in a higher ranking district. I was encouraged to be smart and rise above myths, statistics, and circumstance to pursue greatness!
Further, as an educator, I also got my start teaching at my Alma mater, Warren County High. The same challenges existed in Warren County when I was a teacher, but there was also great progress and innovation. Quality teaching is happening!
I tell you these lessons from it all: You can be your best no matter where you are from or live and still achieve! Use your opportunities wisely. Further, don't let others' opinions frame who you become and your world! Accept the truth and the challenge, but use it to build and motivate you! You can't please everybody and numbers don't always paint a full picture!
Warren County, stand up! (Oh, and parents, RAISE YOUR CHILDREN and don't leave it up to our schools alone.)
In my last blog entry, I announced the release of my first book, The Fourth Man Principle. As I said in the prior blog, I didn't know when and how to release it. I had been waiting and consulting, rereading and revising, assessing costs, etc. Then, one day last week, I just knew it was time to release it. There was no more need to worry about the content. I had nothing else to say and I didn't want anyone to change anything. I just let the chips fall where they needed to fall and let who needed to read and hear the message read and hear.
I'd lived the contents and it was time to move on. As long as I sat on the book, I knew I would still linger emotionally, mentally, and psychologically in a season that was over. It was time to finally let go of the pains, the disappointments, the exepctations, the ambitions, who I thought I was or wanted to be, that season of life. It was time to close that chapter and book, to write a new book, to live a new life, the life I've dreamed about, much of which is still unknown, but still I knew it's time...
It's like when I took the NC bar exam. It was 2009 and Amira had begun declining in health. I was teaching, but getting bored and disliking my boss. I knew it was time to do something different. I studied and had taken and passed one bar exam in 2005, but the summer of 2009 everything that could happen happened. Doctors visits, family members visiting, death in the family and amongst friends, you name it! Then the day of the exam, I sat down at the table and across from me sat a familiar face, a friend that I went to law school with years ago.
During lunch breaks we recounted the law and discussed the very things that ended up on the exam. I felt confident, but still this was no ordinary test and leaving the faigrounds on the last day of the test I had a flat tire, of all things! Months later, I found out I passed and I knew it was the grace and divine providence of God. Someone asked me how I did it because they had been out of law school a while and was thinking about taking the bar. I told them, I just knew it was time. Looking back, I saw that in spite of the adversity and chaos I dealt with while studying that summer, God had already orchestrated and set me up for success.
So, I tell you, today, "It's time!" Get over it (whatever your "it" is)! Get it out (that idea, that project, those words)! Move forward! Don't wait any longer. Don't ignore those promptings! If you keep observing the wind, you will not sow! (Ecclesiastes 11:4) If there's a dream inside of you, do it! The life you want to live, live it! If you know there's greater, pursue it and you will find it! Let the pains and disappointments go so you can grow and fulfill what only you can fulfill. God has already appointed your provision and ordered your steps, the certain and uncertain ones. Just go! Don't be moved by the opposition you'll face, the naysayers, the limitations. It's time! It's your time! Stop reading about it and be about it! Close the book!
Today marks the end of a journey that I embarked upon a few years ago. I have written my very first book! I wondered when I would finish it because I would write little pieces here and there. When people would inquire about my progress, I would answer, "I don't think I am finished living it yet."
I actually finished the book some time last year, but I've been trying to figure out when and how to publish and release it. After reading T.D. Jakes' book Instinct, I finally knew and felt this is the time! I have been consulting publishing companies and connections for some time and gathering information. However, today, I just felt this was the moment to seize and share the book.
The book is entitled The Fourth Man Principle and it is about dealing with personal adversity and knowing that God is with you to carry you through any test and trial you face. It's an easy read. It is autobiographical, inspirational, biblical, and practical. I discuss life challenges and what I have learned spiritually. I particularly deal with how my wife and I dealt with the loss of our precious firstborn child, Amira Elyse Kingsberry. There are a few tear-jerking pages, but don't let that stop you from buying and reading it. With every believer's story of pain, there is also victory. God has given us three more beautiful children! We thank and praise Him!
I encourage you to buy this book; it will bless and encourage you to move forward in your life purpose and Kingdom assignment no matter the adversity! Go to Amazon.com and purchase your copy right now!
I have not written in this blog since December, but all I can say is God is amazing! It has been a half year of His goodness! The major highlight is God giving my wife and I twin girls! What makes it so amazing is that God informed us beforehand that this would happen. I thank God that He is faithful! I thank Him for giving us 3 children after losing our first child, my precious daughter, Amira. The hardship we have endured in the process of building a family have been made worth it all. I just thank God! I don't know how people function without Him because God is truly AMAZING!
It’s time for another blog entry! Actually, it has been time, but I have been busy being very lazy, Christmas shopping, working out to compensate for all the eating I am going to do this Christmas, and relaxing with my family. As I already mentioned in my first blog entry, I have been making this holiday season my own personal season. I have been reading a book on
self-improvement (Nine Things You Simply Must Do to Succeed in Love and Life by Dr. Henry Cloud) and reflecting on who I want to be and what I want to do this coming year. Ironically, I watched several episodes of Iyanla, Fix My Life and found so much truth in the shows. Most people have seen the show, but in case you have not, Iyanla Vanzant helps people work through hard, life issues through counseling and confrontation.
Of course, I always try to take some helpful self-improvement hints from what I see and read. One particular episode
featured Terrell Owens, the former famous football star. Iyanla was helping him deal with the issues of his past that were keeping him from living a productive life and working in the NFL. One particular issue that arose was the fact that he did not know who his father was until he was eleven; this truth only came out when he liked a girl (who was also his neighbor) and was told by his father that he could not date her because he was her brother. Let me break that down: Terrell’s neighbor was his father and Terrell had a crush on his daughter. Terrell's mother slept with her (married) neighbor when she was sixteen and they kept it secret. That was a lot to handle, but these things happen in so many families. As one who grew up as a fatherless child as the result of immature and imprudent acts of adults, I understood.
What caught my attention is that Iyanla told Terrell that it was alright for him to be upset about it. During the interview, he often responded in a way to protect his mother instead of facing the reality of his true feelings about his life. I could relate to this because I have often denied my own feelings about childhood issues in order to protect my loved ones. Seeing this
interaction between Terrell and Iyanla was freeing for me. I received my own permission to be upset about bad things done to me by others and circumstances, beyond my control, that people put me in and it felt good. I didn’t lash out on anyone or anything, but I realized that a lot of the messy situations I have dealt with in life were beyond my control and not my fault and that I could be angry about it. We often seek to mute our emotions and responses as a way of coping with our issues; however, it hinders our growth, freedom, and recovery. I know the first step to getting over past hurts is not to mute my response. Acknowledge. Accept. Deal with it and move on.
Today, for the first time in a long time, I have done absolutely nothing. I have not sought anything to do and any place to go and no obligation has sought me either! So, I am enjoying lying around my house, playing with social media (actually using Twitter and setting up an Instagram account) running after my son, playing video games with my wife, and watching terrible movies on Hulu, Netflix, and Dish Network with various company. Funny enough, today, I actually am enjoying it. Usually, I must have something to do or I feel unaccomplished and aimless. When I stopped to think about and admit that a lot of my self-worth was wrapped up in activity, I resolved in 2014 to never allow this again. If I want to do nothing, then I will do nothing and I will still be important and fulfilled! This is a big resolve for me. I usually load up my time and schedule with singing, preaching, writing papers for classes, work, etc. When I have leisure time, I even load that up as well with movies, shopping, etc. Activity! Truthfully, I probably need to observe the Sabbath with Seventh Day Adventists and Jewish people, but that’s a little too much for me. However, I get the principle of rest and taking time to worship and reflect. So, I encourage you all to do the same. Do nothing every once and a while. Keep me accountable. Peace!
Welcome to the mind and heart of Hassan T. Kingsberry! This is my first ever blog and I am excited to finally embrace writing and sharing my feelings, thoughts, experiences, and life lessons with you (other than on Facebook). I pray you, the readers, will be encouraged and empowered to live your best LIFE--a fulfilled life centered on LOVE, INTEGRITY, FAITH, and EXCELLENCE!
So, it's my favorite time of the year, the Christmas Holiday Season! Besides getting a break from work to spend time with family and friends, it is my primary season of reflection. As I prepare for the New Year, I am much more introspective and I get more perspective and resolve to make the approaching year the best I have ever lived. This year is no different. I am excited about embarking upon becoming more physically fit, putting the finishing touches on and publishing my first book, and travelling to places I've always wanted to visit. The goal is that each year gets better than the year before.
If I had to come up with a theme for this blog, I would call it "This is Your Season." Just as the Holidays are a special season to commemorate the birth of Christ and to bring in a fresh new year, it is also a time to enjoy, reflect upon, celebrate, and recreate YOU! It's a time to make plans, assess the execution of the plans you made in the past, recharge, forgive, love, laugh, reconnect with dreams and people. While making the Holidays festive, take the time to enjoy and fully experience the only life you have to live--your own! Then, reflect on how you can enjoy it even more with decisions and purposeful action! Go inward some and make this your personal season.
There's nothing deep in this first blog. Just make this Holiday special by making it your own. Reflect this year on how you can maximize your life. I've come to understand that every moment is precious and you do not get "do overs." Set your course to fulfill every dream, reach every goal, and be the person you want to be (within the restraints of your budget and faith...) As you commemorate the birth of Christ and the life He came into the world to give, make sure you are living your best life with no regrets, minimal stress and heartache, fulfilling relationships, rewarding occupational pursuits, and helping others do the same. Have a wonderful day and great Holiday season!